Have you talked to yourself today? Of course you have – we all do, constantly throughout our day. But something I want to discuss with you is how we talk to ourselves and how big of an impact the way we think fuels the way we perceive others, and arguably most important- ourselves.
How we think to ourselves can make or break us- literally. I’m going to be vulnerable here and admit that I am somewhat pessimistic, a quality that I never wanted to admit to myself or others; however, I am better now than I was years ago.
For example, I tend to beat myself up when I make a mistake, and it consumes me to the point where I can’t let it go- not for awhile at least. This may in turn effect my attitude and how I treat others, especially those closest to me. It’s something that I strongly dislike and am making more of an effort to change.
Looking at the world in a negative way effects everything, our today and tomorrow. Being pessimistic can even ruin our potential for a bright future. We might talk ourselves out of something before even attempting it because we are scared of being judged, failing, the unknown, etc. I think this is a large factor of why people don’t actually attempt things they want to do, like lifting.
I’m not a fan of public speaking- like at all. I would rather do 3 hours of cardio, 500 burpees, or eat nothing but boiled chicken for a month. Alright I’m exaggerating a bit, but you get my point. 😉
This week I had some presentations that didn’t go as well as they would have if I spoke to myself more optimistically. Days before the presentations, I already mentally prepared myself for failure. I caught myself saying, “This is going to go bad. I’m so nervous. I’m gonna mess up and it’s gonna be really awkward and on and on and on.”
If this was an interview in front of a potential employer, I would have blown it; a missed opportunity, all because I mentally set myself up for failure, resulting in a poor, unconfident performance.
So, I want to encourage you to make it a mission to try and live more positively, if you aren’t already. Something so simple as changing your outlook can change your life, and others.
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